What to do when you are betrayed
It takes time to end a relationship, effort and will to heal from the betrayal. It is not only about ending things, but also about overcoming the betrayal. Once caught in this situation, many people wonder how to end the engagement after infidelity. Here are some tips on how to end an engagement after infidelity that will help you get through this difficult time:
Decide if you can overcome infidelity
Before deciding whether you can move on from infidelity, think about how much you love your partner, how committed you are to the relationship and what you hope your future will look like if you stay together.
If you are unsure about your future with the person after they cheat, it may be better to end the engagement. When thinking about whether or not you can get over infidelity, don't assume that people who have been cheated on can easily get over the betrayal. It can be difficult to recover from infidelity, especially if you have been together for a long time or if you are planning to get married.
Confronting your partner with infidelity
When you confront your partner about an affair, you give them the opportunity to tell their side of the story.
You are also letting your partner know that you know about the cheating and that you are breaking off the engagement because of the affair.
When confronting your partner about an affair, you should be careful not to overreact or let your emotions get the better of you. Whether your partner admits to the affair or does so during the confrontation, it is important to let him or her know that the affair does not change how you feel about him or her. Stay calm and collected and let your partner know that you love him or her, but that you can no longer commit to him or her because of the affair.
Moving on from the break-up Once you have confronted your partner and he or she has admitted the affair, it is time to end the engagement.
You may be tempted to forgive your partner, but forgiveness is a personal decision you must make. You can forgive your partner, but that does not mean that you have forgotten what he or she did or that the pain is completely gone. If you decide to forgive your partner after the affair, it is important to make sure that you understand what he or she did and that you are committed to not doing it again.
You may also consider working with a counsellor if you feel you need extra help to move on. When you end your engagement, it is also important to think about how you want to let your partner know that you are breaking up with them.
You do not need to tell your partner that you have been cheated on, but you will need to let them know that you are ending the engagement.
If you need to be sure he has been unfaithful, use the polygraph.
The polygraph is not a form perfect way to find out the truth, but it can be useful in some situations. When using a polygraph to find out if your partner has cheated on you, you will want to make sure you use a certified polygraph examiner.
You can find out if the examiner is certified by calling the American Polygraph Association. You can also use the Association's website to find out more information about the polygraph tests and what to expect.
The Polygraph
Conclusion
Before ending the engagement after your affair, you will want to make sure that you are prepared to move on from the break-up and that you have confronted your partner about the affair.
When you have decided to end your engagement after the cheating, you will want to let your partner know that you were cheated on and that you are ending the engagement. It is important to remain calm and collected when doing so and to make sure that your partner understands that you are ending the engagement because of the affair.